the one that was obviously sleeping with Sarah...


i saw a quick picture, didnt look like anyone i knew

the one that was obviously sleeping with Sarah...


i saw a quick picture, didnt look like anyone i knew

Me either. I think the point was that...it doesn't matter who it was. Jack needed to let it go. Period.

yeah, i was wondering too if he was someone we knew, cuz we all know they like to do that to us every once and a while but it didn't seem like anyone fimilar

am i the only one that thinks that jack having a problem with his wife cheating on him is NOT a problem? his father was saying "let it go" and now i saw someone on this thread saying he had to let it go. i mean... i think it's a very legitimate reaction. i think sarah not telling him who it was is really really really weird and unnatural. is that just me?

Didn't look like anybody we knew, but there are plenty of unknown male figures it COULD be...

am i the only one that thinks that jack having a problem with his wife cheating on him is NOT a problem? his father was saying "let it go" and now i saw someone on this thread saying he had to let it go. i mean... i think it's a very legitimate reaction. i think sarah not telling him who it was is really really really weird and unnatural. is that just me?


Ok, I admit, it was me. Man, I thought I had gotten away with it. JJ Abrams must double as a detective....arrgh! LOL

Heh, my gut instinct told me it was Brian Porter (the guy who ended up with Michael's wife) but I don't think it was him.

I didin't recognize him. I thought Jack behaved exactly like I would have in that situation. I would expect Jack to be unhinged and need to know who the other guy was.

I honestly hope we never know who it is/was. I like the random, occasional connections between flashback characters, but don't want TPTB to take it so far and do it so often that it becomes completely implausable and therefore uncompelling when there is a connection.

I think Sarah's line said it best: it doesn't matter who he his, it matters who he is not.

IMDB has him as performing the role of multiple characters in this show, so he is probably just a nobody stand in.

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0763928/

Maybe its Locke's foster(?) brother, i heard somewhere she was connected to him somehow

For a bit, I thought it was gonna be Chico. Y'know, the guy who was caged across from Sawyer.

am i the only one that thinks that jack having a problem with his wife cheating on him is NOT a problem? his father was saying "let it go" and now i saw someone on this thread saying he had to let it go. i mean... i think it's a very legitimate reaction. i think sarah not telling him who it was is really really really weird and unnatural. is that just me?

YEA, tachyon! I totally agree with you... IT'S A HUGE PROBLEM. It's not something you just brush off your shoulders. And Sarah was acting like a fool.

I don't know why Jack didn't use a private investigator.

TPTB had the writers put their intentions in Sarah's mouth: It isn't who the other man is that matters; it is who Jack was NOT.

I don't think we'll ever find out who this guy is. Heck, I don't even think we'll see Sarah in FBs anymore. This backstory pretty much brings closure to the Jack/Sarah story.

The only thing we--or Jack--needed to know about this guy is: he is someone who could bring happiness to Sarah. And, according to Juliet, Sarah IS very, very happy.

The end.

i am with the guy who said jack wife was being a b----, she cheated on him and should have enough decency to tell him with who.

I didin't recognize him. I thought Jack behaved exactly like I would have in that situation. I would expect Jack to be unhinged and need to know who the other guy was.

I can understand wanting to know who your significant other is cheating with, but in the end.. it really didn't matter. That was one cold diss, "It's not about who he is Jack, it's about who you aren't." I wonder if it would've caused more hurt for Jack if he found out she was cheating with someone he knew, as opposed to 'some dude'.

Sarah knows Jack, and she knows how obsessive he is, and if he knew who the guy was, he would hound him (and her) forever trying to prove that he's the best man for her. That's unacceptable for anyone involved, but Jack can't accept it. He can't let go, and he has to. The only person who got remotely close to get him to let go has been Juliet, but that's also twisted behavior modification. Pavlov's Bell meets the Dog Whisperer.

I don't think the guy is important. I understand Jack wanting to know who the "other man" was, though, because he wanted to make sure it wasn't someone he knew. Then, when he doesn't find out, he just gets more and more paranoid until he thinks his dad is cheating with her (which I find very unlikely but can see how he got to that point out of desperation).

IMDB has him as performing the role of multiple characters in this show, so he is probably just a nobody stand in.

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0763928/

WHOA....that guy was HOT in Love Actually as Karl...I'd LOVE for him to be in more flashbacks...particularily with his shirt off!

IMDB has him as performing the role of multiple characters in this show, so he is probably just a nobody stand in.

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0763928/


Rodrigo Santoro is one of the show's new regulars so he's probably listed with imdb becasue of that just like every other regular gets tied to the show until it's pointed out that they wen't in a particular episode. IMDB also tends to be wrong often and may be unsure of the character name he plays adding to the fact he has two names reported.

After havign read the posts I got it! The voice on the intercom said let it go. Actually he did. When presented with a choice "what would you like to know jack?" His answer should have been (obsessed jack would have asked) what was his name. However... he asked ...."is she happy?" This probably was to convey that he either found out, or has let go, either way the answer shows jack's growth on this matter. Remember here, the main mo here is everyone is LOST, Jacks finding himself, even in a cell.

Rodrigo Santoro is one of the show's new regulars so he's probably listed with imdb becasue of that just like every other regular gets tied to the show until it's pointed out that they wen't in a particular episode. IMDB also tends to be wrong often and may be unsure of the character name he plays adding to the fact he has two names reported.
Exactly....I suspect that we and perhaps Jack will find out who this mystery man is....


...because he is on the island.

Which makes me wonder how to interpret Juliet's comment that Sarah is "very happy."

Am I the only person here who thinks that Sarah's mystery "man" might not actually be a man?

I spent the entire episode thinking it would turn out that she left him for another woman, not another man. Now, I have absolutely no proof of this, but I think that if Christian knew if was a woman, that he was only trying to save his son from what could be a humiliating discovery. That's why he wanted him to "let it go".

From my own male perspective, I believe that this would have to be one of the most embarassing things that could happen to someone. To me, losing your wife to another man would be devastating... losing her to another woman would be even worse.

Sarah never really comes out and says it's a "him", does she? She doesn't say much of anything except that she's leaving Jack for someone else.

She never actually says that the guy we see with her (after she bails Jack out of jail) is who she's with. It could just be a friend.

(I thought that it might be her brother, but I immediately realized that Jack probably knows any brothers she has, as they would be his brothers-in-law.)



We may never find out who it is, and that may be the point... that we just need to "let it go", the way Jack needed to, but I have a feeling it may come up again... and it wouldn't surprise me if it turns out to be a "her".

Did anyone notice that sarah was with two different guys. The one she meets in the park (with two kids?) had longer hair and the one she is with in the jail had really short hair. Maybe he just had a haircut but they looked totally different to me.

I would expect Jack to be unhinged and need to know who the other guy was.

Jack wanted to know who the person was so he would have someone besides himself to blame for his marriage failing. Sarah wanted Jack to know that he was the only one to blame. She was leaving because Jack had failed her as a husband - because of what he was not.


This probably was to convey that he either found out, or has let go, either way the answer shows jack's growth on this matter. Remember here, the main mo here is everyone is LOST, Jacks finding himself, even in a cell.

I hope not. Everyone who successfully resolves their issues on this island dies.

I don't know who he was, but I kept wondering why neither Sarah nor Jack's father ever denied that Christian was the one. How hard would it have been to just say, "No, son, I would never ever sleep with your wife," or "Jack, that it is gross. I wouldn't dream of doing your dad!"

I don't think Jack's behaivor was wrong as much as self destructive. But, no one was helping him in the way he needed to be helped, and he didn't do anything to be treated so effin' harshly by two people he loves. It was just too much for him, and he needed support, not lectures, but every time he turned around, people were friggin' lecturing him. Then Juliet comes around with her soft voice and supportive tone, right when it's the last thing he needs.

And in my mind, that is Jack in a nutshell. He's going to do the right thing, even when the right thing is being a little stalkerish, just so he can resolve it in his mind. Sara was punishing Jack for not being around, but if it wasn't for Jack she's be parapalegic. I think she can cut him a little more slack. Jack isn't a selffish man, the one time we've seen so far when he becomes very selfish and everyone around him becomes righteous about it.

Christian I understood because he's a self righteous egomaniac, but he wife was just being mean. I don't think intentionally, she was being selfish too, but I bet if she just gave him a name, he would have let it go.

Now for me, that "lesson" didn't apply to his current situation. Because when you're being held prisoner, you DON'T let it go. You fight in any way you can until they let you out or you escape. You never stop trying to fight back.

I don't think Jack has let anything go, or given up. Least I hope not.

Did anyone notice that sarah was with two different guys. The one she meets in the park (with two kids?) had longer hair and the one she is with in the jail had really short hair. Maybe he just had a haircut but they looked totally different to me.

The one she meets in the park is not her lover, looks more like a colleague or something... it's just because we see him thru Jack's gaze that we find their behaviour suspicious...

Rodrigo Santoro is one of the show's new regulars

Exactly....I suspect that we and perhaps Jack will find out who this mystery man is....


...because he is on the island.

Which makes me wonder how to interpret Juliet's comment that Sarah is "very happy."


I found this thread on search after realizing the playground guy is a dead ringer for Santaro.
He's either Santoro or a red herring lookalike.

If he IS Santaro, that doesn't mean he's Sarah's mystery man. He could have been a coworker
and as Dez says, he's already on the island. We'll be left wondering if it's him and if it's coincidence or conspiracy, unless the show gives us background info otherwise. "Paulo" is his name according to spoilers, which might be foilers so he could have another name.

OK dont know if this has been said or what BUT WHAT IF the guy that she was now with was her exboyfriend who left her because she was broken and then after Jack fixed her she went over to his house or went to go see him somewhere and he decided that he still loves her and it was a mistake to let her go and they get back together. I dont have a pic of either of them but what if she just went back to him. That would have got Jacks gall up dont yhou think.